Tuesday, May 13, 2014

MINDFUL LIVING


Caring for people with diminished capacity as we do at Adagio initiates many conversations about their behaviors and what we can do differently. We never assume they must change. We evaluate what happened before the behavior, what we could have done differently and discuss the new care plan with all the caregivers.  A mobile is the perfect metaphor.

You may wonder about the curly haired lady wearing the blue hat where most blog writers post their own picture. When new people visit our home they see Irene dangling from the living room ceiling. Unless they view her straight on, they think the dangling colored glass odd, usually being too polite to comment.

*Irene is a mobile. Air currents cause her to bob and turn so her hat is askew and her eye balls rotate beneath her immaculate brow. I have taken Irene as my avatar precisely because the parts of her visage dangle from separate lines and when one part veers, all the other parts also meander in the air. And there is a droll similarity between Irene and me.

Caring for people with diminished capacity is not that different from interacting with anyone else, like the members of their family. It takes mindful listening, mindful speaking, and change on our part if we want to see change from them.

“Thinking mobile” requires deliberate, mindful living. The rewards usually make the effort worthwhile.

*Irene is the creation of Dancing Glass artist, Sue Rena Curtis. Her mobiles make wonderful gifts for yourself or others.


 

Friday, May 2, 2014

MINDFUL LIVING


April was National Poetry month. Writer’s Digest online magazine posted a daily writing prompt on their poetry blog and interested writers composed a poem on that subject du jour, for example, begin, settle, city, monster. Shortened to PAD, April was a month of deliberate, mindful writing.


In the aftermath of Poem A Day, I picked up a couple books set aside for the duration. This is the Story of a Happy Marriage by Ann Patchett is a collection of essays about writing life and then on to adopting a dog, a husband, a collection of interesting people, not necessarily nice strangers, but attention-grabbing.  Patchett’s observations on writing describe her maturation from beginning wordsmithery to studying and writing fiction.

“Why is it that we understand playing the cello will require work, but we attribute writing to the magic of inspiration?...If a person of any age picked up the cello for the first time and said, ‘I’ll be playing in Carnegie Hall next month!’ you would pity their delusion, yet beginning fiction writers all across the country polish up their best efforts and send them off to The New Yorker.”

Patchett also writes, “If a person has never given writing a try, they assume that a brilliant idea is hard to come by. But really, even if it takes some digging, ideas are out there. Just open your eyes and look at the world.”


As sometimes happens when reading, my mind left the page and taking a curved left turn, remembered The Pen and the Bell,  Mindful Writing in a Busy World, by Brenda Miller and Holly J. Hughes. Specifically Chapter Six, “Practice, Practice, Practice”, where Brenda describes a change in her yoga practice, “My body retained the memory and the poses felt different.” She continues, “Now I think of writing the same way. Once you reach a certain comfortable level in your writing, it can be tempting to stay there…That’s fine for a while. But at some point we want to push ourselves further or find a coach who will guide us to another level. To feel ourselves stretching.”


This month of poetry definitely stretched me; now I have the challenge of merging practice writing with a balanced life and see what shape my writing takes. For her contribution to Chapter Six, Holly offers a compatible insight from a weekend workshop in the North Cascades, “Sit, Walk, Write: Nature and the Practice of Presence.” “…during one of our periods of meditation, I sat on a low, flat rock above the lake at the end of the log boom, noticing how the surface is agitated outside the log boom, serene within. It seems a perfect analogy for the last few days; we’ve seen how sitting, walking, and writing in silence enables these ripples to smooth out, at least until the next disturbance comes along.”


What follows Brenda and Holly’s observations in each chapter are contemplation practices and writing practices offering opportunities to build personal experience into each chapter’s theme. My month-long experience of pushing words around a specific foci has left me needing the contemplation, the deep breathing, the being that will allow more words to flow to the paper. PAD 2014 was a marathon effort and I’m glad I succeeded. But replenishment and balance will bring ideas, and with deliberate practice, satisfactory writing.

Write. v., wrote; written or writ; writing. 1. to trace or form characters, letters, words, etc. on the surface of some material, as with a pen, pencil, or other instrument or means. 2. to express or communicate in writing; give a written account of. 3. to fill in the blank spaces with writing: to write a check. 6. to produce as author or composer. Some special verb phrases are:  write down, write off, write out, write up, write-in.


 

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

THE NEW SONG


The New Song

 

by W. S. Merwin


For some time I thought there was time
and that there would always be time
for what I had a mind to do
and what I could imagine
going back to and finding it
as I had found it the first time
but by this time I do not know
what I thought when I thought back then

there is no time yet it grows less
there is the sound of rain at night
arriving unknown in the leaves
once without before or after
then I hear the thrush waking
at daybreak singing the new song
 
from The Moon Before Morning. © Copper Canyon Press, 2014.

Friday, April 18, 2014

ABOUT TIME


In her poetry collection, Traveling Light, Linda Pastan explores the ironies that assault us every day. We seek control of our world, experience, but time escapes even our understanding of its nature. Disease, disorders and defects we control by research into their origins, a cure only dollars away. Relationships we control by avoidance or setting severe boundaries. But time has a life of its own.

Clock   by  Linda Pastan


Sometimes it really upsets me—
the way the clock's hands keep moving,

even when I'm just sitting here
not doing anything at all,

not even thinking about anything
except, right now, about that clock

and how it can't keep its hands still.
Even in the dark I picture it, and all

its brother and sister clocks and watches,
even sundials, all those compulsive timepieces

whose only purpose seems to be
to hurry me out of this world.

"Clock" by Linda Pastan from Traveling Light.


Sunday, April 13, 2014

LETTING GO IN TIME


No matter how long we care for people in our home, Adagio AFH, we never get used to experiencing their decline. We resist their disintegration as vigorously as possible without impinging on their right to die.

After only two weeks working with Hospice, we succumbed to the inevitable and gave comfort care only. Early Wednesday morning our resident took in a shallow breath and then no more.

Saturday we attended a continuing education class at our pharmacy supplier considering the subject “End of Life.” Considering our recent experience, the presenters helped me differentiate Palliative Care when the symptoms are serious but not fatal, and Hospice Care when we no longer look for solutions and a cure. Our ultimate goal is to help give “good death.”

Our grieving family has been gifted with exceptional weather for travel back to home base and warm, sunny days as they circle around the area of their childhood making their plans.

Viewing the pastel sunset last night, I reviewed a few comments made in our training.  Our 30ish pharmacist reminded us of the earthquakes and deadly landslides we have experienced this past month. “We never know if today will be our last.” We treasure each sunset as though it is our last.



Saturday, April 5, 2014

THAT TIME OF DAY


Sunsets are valued as beauty in nature at its best, and highly desirable even though they indicate the movement of time through another 24 hours we will never again see.

The best sunsets require clouds. Clouds change their shape and basic nature in less time than it takes to run throughout the house closing windows. Clouds are seen to hide the sun in the sky overhead, and in metaphors holding truth in a small, vowel congested word. Every cloud has a silver lining. Her head is in the clouds. There are dark clouds on the horizon.

In 1802 William Wordsworth invoked a lonely cloud to represent his solitude, writing, "I wandered lonely as a cloud/That floats on high o'er vales and hills/When all at once I saw a crowd,/A host of golden daffodils;/Beside the lake./ Beneath the trees,/Fluttering and dancing in the breeze."

Float clouds, cumulous or cirrus, above the western horizon as the earth turns your small plot of land away from the sun and you have potential for a breathtaking sunset. Growing up on the eastern shore of Lake Michigan my father would scan the early evening sky and announce, “Red in the morning, sailors take warning. Red in the night, sailors delight.” And another day passes into our memory.